I haven’t shared on this site in a long time. In fact, I hadn’t realised how long it had been until I logged in 2 minutes ago! 2017 was a difficult and challenging year for me. Health problems meant 6 months off work followed by a phased return. I found it difficult to accept that I was unwell and needed to slow down. But thankfully the year finished on a better note as I started a new (permanent) position which I love.
The start of a new year is often a time for reflection and given the events of the last year I have definitely been in a elective mood. Having just finished listening to Option B by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant about resilience and learning to live with (and even enjoy!) option B, I have felt compelled to start to share what has happened in my life over the last few years and how I am finally coming out the other side.
I want to share because all too often we keep these stories quiet, feeling that we need to hide our negative emotions and our struggles from others for fear of being seen as weak or unable to cope with life. This leaves us feeling ashamed and vulnerable and can lead to more serious problems down the line as we develop unhealthy coping mechanisms.
Having struggled with feelings such as these, and especially the need to put on an outward appearance that everything is fine, I have come to the conclusion that it is important to share, to know that we are not alone and to know that there is light at the ends of the tunnel. To know that it is possible to survive and even thrive after experiencing tragedy or adversity.
So, it is time to come out of hiding and show my true self, because my experiences have shaped me into the person that I am today and I am stronger for it. And even if only 1 person is helped by my story then it will be worthwhile.